I believe the following 5 steps can add to your BE-ing wholly vibrant as you share your heart, love, gifts, and time with those nearest to you–your family, loved ones, friends, neighbors, and those less fortunate. Check it out and let me know if you agree.
Know who is most important to you.
Make a list of all of the people in your family. Include your spouse, if there is one. Include your boyfriend or girlfriend, no matter how long you’ve been together. Include your children, grand children, step-children, half-children, adopted children, foster children, god children, and so forth. Include your parents and grandparents (if still living), aunts, uncles, first cousins, second cousins, third cousins, and so on.
How long has it been?
Next to the names on your list, place an approximate date next to their name for the last time you visited with them in person, talked on the phone, or such. Are you surprised at the length of time that’s elapsed since you visited with them? And if you love them, why do you love them? Why wouldn’t you place them high enough on your list of priorities to ensure you visit with them at least every few years.
If you’re a “saved” individual and pray for your loved ones–hoping you’ll spend eternity in heaven with them–why, when you can’t make time for them in the here and NOW?
I loved seeing my first cousins at my mom’s Memorial this past August. Some I’d talked with on–or very soon after–the day of my mother’s transition to the Great Beyond. But several, I’ve still not talked with, even months later. My ego isn’t hurt. My heart is hurt! I’m grieving because I realize how short our lives are and I’ve not had the opportunity to share with all of my loved ones.
Remember, people will eventually forget the things you gave them, but they’ll always remember how you made them feel. And time together is the most aWEsOMe way to cultivate those feelings.
Make the call, no matter how long it’s been or why you haven’t talked in years.
One of the best things that happened when my mother passed was that one of my cousins who I’d been mutually estranged, called me the day after she’d gotten the news of my mother’s death.
At first, I didn’t think I’d want to talk with her since we had not talked in over a decade due to a disagreement over my mother’s illness and care. But because I’d been doing so much work on my self-growth (mind, body, and spirit), I answered the phone and decided to see how the conversation would go. And we talked like we’d never missed a beat. Neither of us beat up on the other. And I believe it was a positive, self-regulating conversation–filled with love.
In another example, when I went to my 30 year high school reunion, one of my old friends (since about 3rd or 4th grade) was so excited to see me, that as my husband and I approached—she was standing with a group of gals outside—literally jumped up and down because she was so ecstatic to see me after 30 years! And while we had a wonderful, heartfelt visit during that first evening, it didn’t take me long to start to realize how many years I’d been away. Later, she told me something akin to, “We need to stay in touch. I just need to figure out how to fit you into my life.” Sadly, that’s been 7 years ago with rarely a comment on Facebook to each other.
Prioritize your time with your end goal in mind.
So, I get it. We’re all busy with work, school, hobbies, kids, friends, neighbors, clubs, vacations, and so on. But, at what price? Are we choosing to prioritize money, status, ego, whatever, over and above our loved ones–including family and dear friends? Maybe.
Maybe you really don’t have time to travel to be with your loved ones. But nearly everyone has access to the internet. Check out Google Hangout or Skype. There’s almost always a way to connect with your family and friends if you make a bit of your time available. I bet they’d love to hear from you!
If I still haven’t enticed you to reach out, let me ask you this. What if you were dying in a year, six or three months, who would you regret not reconnecting with?
I present to you two interviews my husband and I watched that brought this topic to my mind and prompted me to write this.
Blake Mykoski (of Toms shoes) with Tim Ferris on Tim’s new show that we love, Fear(less):
And Dan Rather interviewed Carlos Santana on, The Big Interview (which I found a portion of here):
Both said in these interviews that their bucket list includes one best thing to do and that is to spend time with family!
What gifts can you offer to someone less fortunate than you–even if it’s only a smile?
Maybe you give to a favorite charity. Bravo! Maybe you volunteer at a hospital, wellness center, clinic, or nursing home. Kudos! Maybe you do random acts of kindness because time or money is a real factor for you and you can’t spare much. It’s all good, and no one is judging you.
At the least of it, you pay your taxes. Know that part of your tax dollars is going to support our veterans in need. Feel warm about this and smile.
Each of us can do something to cultivate our Connections. And that’s a wholly vibrant way to be!
Much love and many blessings dear ones.
To our feeling great, better health, and longevity,
Your alternative health researcher, joyful wellness guinea pig, and mindful Mind-Body-Spirit guru! Reach out to me if you need a boost, or a boot, to get yourself back in charge of YOUR well-being.
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